The Use of Reward In Positive Parenting
Children are born curious. There is a whole new world to explore and most of their behaviour is adopted from adults, particularly their parents. Whatever be the age of your child, teaching them the benefits of discipline could be rewarding in the long run. Tangible rewards or social reinforcements are the most effective way to incentivise your child for their behaviour.
Rewarding good behaviour promotes learning and also helps parents to focus on their kids right doings. Tangible rewards can lead to a regular habit of greed–getting something in exchange for good behaviour; therefore, the motivation for good behaviour fades as the incentives stops. Instead, rewarding in the form of verbal encouragement and motivation can sustain internal motivation.
Let’s take a look at some tips on how to reward your child effectively for good behaviour:
Model an ultimate rewarding strategy of self-satisfaction and discipline.
Teach your kids how to take responsibility and ownership of their behaviour and get satisfaction from their own good deeds. For example, “My mom enrolled me for a dance class once I started keeping my room clean.” “I feel good about cleaning my room.”
Identify the type of incentives that would keep your child motivated.
A deep sense of emotional attachment motivates children. Rewards such as hugs, a pat on the shoulder, smiles, and positive attention works best for kids in understanding that they have done something worthwhile. Tangible rewards such as toys, money, treats, etc. can be effective too, but should not be given very often.
Positive reinforcement can be effective when started early.
Shower your toddlers with effusive praise, preschoolers with daily rewards, elementary children with documenting rewards charts. This will instill a sense of self-esteem at a young age. The incentives can be a special outing or a small toy for a week-long good behaviour.
Make good behaviour a daily habit.
Teach your kid how to follow a set routine by completing the non-fun stuff first, and then enjoying the fun stuff. This will help them start taking responsibilities. This isn’t a reward, but as parents and teachers, (Pearson School) it’s your responsibility to make good behaviour a habit, a daily routine both at school and at home.
Use consistent rewards to promote good behaviour with gradual decrease of rewards later.
Regular rewards could be fun, but stopping them could be daunting for parents. Positive reinforcement or rewards should be temporary as it helps in teaching a disciplined life. When the desired behaviour is learnt, providing irregular incentives will make good behaviour likely to persist. Ultimately your child’s self-satisfaction and self-approval will be rewarding enough to maintain that expected behaviour.
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